The fear of being alone.

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Okay, so this post wasn't quite planned, I was planning on publishing part 1 of my june playlist, but I guess I'm just gonna write it in one post...Which will be hella long.. Well, it's 17 June, I am sick (which is always fun as fuck, right?) and a fucking storm is coming so that's FUN, right?  Also I'm choking.Let me make myself some tea and let's get in today's topic. *Update, I made myself Nescafe and it started fucking raining so there's that.

The fear of being alone

Are you scared to be alone? Or do you enjoy your own company? This is kind of an issue that's honestly very fucking normalized. Through social media & everyday life, we're used to the companionship of other human beings. We feel that we need someone right by our side just to feel fulfilled and happy. But do we actually? And isn't that selfish? Waiting for your loved ones to make you happy? They also want to be happy themselves.. And you want to make them happy as well, don't you? Let's break it down, so I can at least try to let you in on what's going on in my mind about this.

  
What is the fear of being alone?
The fear of being alone is actually being scared to be lonely, scared to know yourself and scared to listen to your thoughts.. You know how when late at night, when your whole town is asleep, you start thinking deeply, you start feeling more? well, that time of the day/night, you're alone. Some people are scared of their thoughts, their way of thinking, and what do they do? They make sure to always be surrounded by people, talking to friends and acquaintances just to tell the voices in their heads to shut up.. I think the fear of being alone is in a way, a fear of knowing yourself better.
Why are people scared to be alone?
In my opinion, probably one of the biggest reasons is because we're social beings, and with that, we seek approval in others. I know the mindset is toxic, but people mostly don't even know they're in it. You feel naked, soul and body, stripped down in front of the world, and you need someone to hold onto , an anchor in the dangerous waters. We're fine being alone when it's all sunny and great and life is a straight line, but when the storm comes, when life goes to shit, we need someone's shoulder to cry on, instead of being alone in our room..
What do they do when they realize they're scared of being alone?
As I mentioned before, people usually do their best to always be surrounded by other people.. And when there's no other people, they turn to bad habits, instead of just listening to their body, mind, soul, spirit.. They turn to eating badly, drinking, laying around, being sad & lazy.. And that just makes things worse.
What should they do about it?
They should face their fear. They should listen to themselves, they should do something healthy for them , even write out their thoughts to deal with them more easily. Just learn how to enjoy their own company by doing something productive by themselves.
Have I feared being alone?
I have. Of course i have, would I be this passionate to get this out if I didn't? I have gone through a very unhealthy mindset , dark thoughts and bad moods.. But I came out of my comfort zone, started facing my fears, started learning how to love myself for all that I am and all that I am not, and everything went uphill from there. Of course, there are days when I'm not feeling all that well, but I'm only human and I'm overall a happy person :).
What do I recommend?
I recommend reading, watching movies, listening to music & singing, writing, drawing, doing your makeup, anything that makes you express yourself. Being yourself & learning who you are is hard, but anything you practice a lot gets easier in time. Firstly, you have to be yourself in front of yourself, and then in front of the whole world. Learn and appreciate your good & bad sides. Appreciate everything you have, because that's what makes you unique and beautiful.
What do I NOT recommend?
I do not recommend falling back into old habits, falling back into toxic mindsets & relationships. Even if you feel alone, i don't recommend not accepting your feelings. You're human, it's okay not to be okay. Just work towards being okay.

Remember, You are your own best friend. Get to know that best friend as best as you can. Cherish them , love them, appreciate them, listen to them. They want what's best for you , and you should to.

Tell me, what are your opinions on this topic? Do you like posts like this?

The pictures are mine in this post, apart from the first one :)


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39 comments

  1. This was such a wonderful post. I know a lot of people who are scared to be alone to the point that they don't even like to experience short periods of time by themselves. So, it's definitely important to turn to healthy habits!
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  2. Nice post! :)


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  3. Yes that´s is so true! We shoudn´t spend much time alone but doing things we love the most. :) <3
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  4. Great post. I love stay alone.
    Kisses!

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  5. I love this post, almost everyone I know is afraid of being alone, that's dangerous because is easy to fall in a toxic relationship if we don't learn to enjoy solitude. I love being alone ^^
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  6. I actually enjoy my alone time.
    I loved reading your post, interesting topic.

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  8. This is such a complicated topic which I always like to discuss. Is it better to be alone or with anybody? Should we be picky when it comes to our partners in life or friends in general or just let anybody be around just to not feel alone.
    I like how you write about this and if you want to see what I once wrote on this topic I have my article published on this platform https://steemit.com/art/@vildanasuta/are-we-scared-to-be-lonely so if you want to you can check it out.
    I honestly love your blog! Keep writing dear ! xoxo

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    1. Always better off alone, i read it, great post :).

      Thanks, will do xx

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  10. I actually think being alone in depends which moments is good,
    and sometimes we need to learn how to handle with that. But obviously feeling alone is not the best feeling in the world, I had some moments in my life in which my family was away and i didn't know many people in the area where i was staying so obviously i felt alone, but you learn how to overcome that :)
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    1. You learn to overcome a lot of things :). Practice makes perfect

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  11. This is amazing post!
    Have a nice day, dear!
    xoxo

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  15. I used to be like that and that is not a good space to be in. It pushes you to go to places not good for you. In my case I went into bad relationships because of the fear of being alone. Worst days of my life. Thank God for bringing me out gradually. I agree with you recommendations, helps a lot.

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    1. It pushes you to dark places & a dark mindset. I'm really glad you're past that. <3

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